What Are Pronouns? | How To Use Pronouns


Pronouns

Have you ever looked at the bottom of an email, or looked at someone’s Instagram bio and wondered WTF does ‘he/him’, ‘she/her’, and ‘they/them’ mean? No, that’s not a glitch in the gaytrix, and no, they aren’t typos – those things are called pronouns.

Despite what some people may tell you, pronouns aren’t a thing that gays invented two years ago and proceeded to shove down our throats…that’s Lil Nas X.

Much like queer people, pronouns have been around forever, and they aren’t going anywhere any time soon. And you can’t do a damn thing about it!

To take it all the way back to primary school, pronouns are just words that we use to refer to people when we’re not using their name. Wow, what a concept. But WHY are pronouns useful, you ask? Unlike Scott Morrison, pronouns can be very useful and here’s why…

  1. Because sometimes saying someone’s name over and over just sounds fkn stupid. For example, “The person who wrote this article is called Walton. Walton, uses, too, many, unnecessary, commas, so, Walton will probably need to take an adult literacy class, which Walton will most likely fail.”
  2. Using the right pronoun is SO easy! As a matter of fact, going out of your way to use the WRONG pronouns only proves that you are what you what you eat: an assh*le.
  3. By using a person’s preferred pronouns, you’re showing them R E S P E C T but you’re also showing them that they can be themselves around you.
  4. Language is complex and ever-evolving, just like the humans that use it. What makes the English language so fascinating is that we use pronouns to indicate a person’s gender. For many of our trans friends and family, having people know and use correct and affirming pronouns is an integral and validating part of their gender affirmation.

PRONOUNS

Pronouns are generally grouped by whether they’re ‘gendered’ or ‘gender-neutral’.

Gendered pronouns include:

  • he/him/his
  • she/her/hers

Gender-neutral pronouns include:

  • they/them/theirs

Singular gender-neutral pronouns (they/them) are not only grammatically correct, they’ve been around for centuries. In fact,  those cave-people were probably they/them-ing the house down boots (you can’t prove me wrong on that last one… so you’ll have to take my word for it).

Gender neutral pronouns are also a courteous and simple way to refer to somebody whose gender you’re unsure of.

NEOPRONOUNS

Although neopronouns are far less common than their “traditional” counterparts, some people do use them.

Neopronouns include:

  • xe/xem/xyr
  • ze/hir/hirs
  • ey/em/eir

Neopronouns can be used with – or instead of – any other pronoun we’ve mentioned in this article. However the most popular neopronouns were established in the late 20th century, they’ve been recorded in some English languages since the 18th century.

For a more in-depth explanation about neopronouns, click here.

HOW TO USE PRONOUNS

If you’re interested in trying out different pronouns, do like Nike and ‘JUST DO IT’. If they don’t connect with you, do what anyone whoever tried jeggings in the late 00’s did: retire them, or drop em’ off at Vinnies. This is YOUR choose own adventure game, and you get to decide how it goes.

After you’ve picking your preferred pronouns, it can be helpful to jump start your pronouns journey, with trusted friends and family members. If you’re shy, start small, and if you’re still making your way through school, you could share your pronouns with an internet friend. One step at a time!

Lastly, remember that you can ALWAYS change your pronouns. If you decide that a pronoun doesn’t vibe with you, that’s totally fine. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been using them because, as the poet Pettifleur Berenger once said you can always, ‘Switch The Bitch’.

In all seriousness, gender affirmations are all about being happy with yourself, so do what makes YOU feel most comfortable.

NOTE: In the same way that you’re not confined to using the gender markers you were assigned at birth, you’re not confined to using just one pronoun! Plenty of people use “he/they”, “she/they”, or “he/she/they” pronouns, and guess what – those people are just as valid as the ones who choose to stick to one set!

Now that you’re an expert, keep in mind that International Pronouns Day falls on the third Wednesday of October, with this year falling on October 19!

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